It has been an exhausting and tough year for Prince Harry and his family. From announcing their step back from fulfilling frontline royal duties, endless trolling by the British media to the Oprah interview which subjected him and his wife Meghan Markle to endless scrutiny.
In a new interview with Dax Shephard and Monica Padman on The Armchair Expert podcast, he opened up about how he wants to “break the cycle of pain and suffering” for his children.
In the 90 minute long episode, Prince Harry delves into discussions about how to approach mental health issues, growing up with privilege, and how healing it is to perform a service for someone.
The Prince has always been an advocate for discussing and improving access to mental health. He formed the Head’s Together campaign alongside the Duke and Duchess of Cambridge (his brother Prince William and wife Kate) to join mental health charities together in the UK.
This episode takes us deep into Harry’s world which he equates being similar to the Truman show movie.
“It’s the job right? Grin and bear it. Get on with it,” he explained. “I was in my early 20s, and I was thinking I don’t want this job, I don’t want to be here. I don’t want to be doing this. Look what it did to my mum. How am I ever going to settle down and have a wife and family, when I know it’s going to happen again?”
In his early 20s, Prince Harry was known as the ‘naughty prince’ because his behaviour while normal for young men his age, wasn’t ideal for the expectations of the family.
During the interview, Harry talks about how inspirational his mother, Princess Diana was to him and his relationship with the media and restrictions placed upon him and didn’t want to loose the feeling that kept him so connected to his mother.
“The massive, immense impact that she had on us in the short time she was around was huge, because all she wanted to do was make sure we had as normal a life as possible.” – says Prince Harry.
The 36 year old Prince touches on the idea of ending the cycle of generational trauma which he attributes largely to his father’s (Prince Charles) lack of intervention.
“I don’t think we should be pointing the finger or blaming anybody, but certainly when it comes to parenting, if I’ve experienced some form of pain or suffering because of the pain or suffering that perhaps my father or my parents had suffered, I’m going to make sure I break that cycle so that I don’t pass it on, basically.
The Prince is also appearing on Oprah’s docuseries ‘The Me You Can’t See‘ where he openly talks about the sacrifices he has made for his family to lead a normal life.
The Duke reveals it was his wife who helped him realise some of the issues he had and the importance of seeking therapy.
“If this relationship was going to work, I was gona have to deal with my past.”
He tells Shepherd on the podcast that the decision to relocate to the US has been one of THE best decisions and it is one he doesn’t regret.
“And here I am, I moved my whole family to the US, that wasn’t the plan but sometimes you’ve got make decisions and put your family first and put your mental health first.”